One definition I’ve been playing with … Love is Pleasure. The pleasurable feelings of our own hearts which are ours to cultivate and enjoy. Love is the fundamental energy of the universe. Everything is consciousness, and consciousness is love. The universal energies are benevolent and loving.
You are born with the capacity to love, but you are not born with the art of love. That art of love has to be taught, has to be imbibed. People feel bored with their wives and with their husbands. The reason is they have not been able to contact the other's real soul. They have been able to contact the body, but they have missed the contact that happens heart to heart, center to center, soul to soul. Once you know how to contact soul to soul, when you have become soul-mates, then there is no boredom at all. Then there is always something to discover in the other because each being is an infinity, and each being contains God Himself.
When it comes to relationships, it is the ways in which we are the same that creates closeness between us. Shared values, shared world view, shared goals, shared interests, time spent together and so on. But it is distance and difference which creates and renews desire in a long term relationship. Because a lot of couples spend a lot of time together and sleep in the same bed every night, they can end up very deeply bonded on a friendship and love level, yet find that their attraction to each other gets weaker the longer they spend together. All is not lost though, as there are some very practical things we can do to keep desire alive.
I have a lot of sympathy for men. I think they put up with a lot. The way they are portrayed on tv shows as bumbling idiots who can’t use a washing machine even though practically every machine ever invented was invented by a man. The unconscious manner in which women joke about them and put them down. The way it's seemingly ok for women to objectify men but god forbid a man even looks too long at a woman.
It’s quite common for desire to disappear in a long term relationship. Sexual intimacy is important. Here are of my top tips to help you reignite desire in your intimate life. 1.Distance breeds desire. While spending 24 7 with your other half breeds familiarity and friendship. It’s important to spend enough time away from your partner so that when you do meet, you have energy and attraction for each other.
Tantric sex is simple: It is the art of making love consciously. When we bring awareness to the act, we automatically contact deeply with the love that we are. Tantra is embodied awareness, we situate our mind in our body, and we allow the intelligence of the body to flow. We naturally awaken to the love that we are, the energy of love which is always present, always available for us to connect with.
All sacred sexuality traditions, indigenous traditions and esoteric teachings of the major religions from around the world and through the different ages teach this: All of creation stems from the interplay of masculine and feminine energies. The making love of Shiva and Shakti, yin and yang, expansion and contraction, action and receptivity, chaos and order, night and day, positive and negative are all expressions of masculine and feminine energies. This is the the dance of life.
When you touch someone it should be special. You should be centred and present and fully engaged with the part of the body you are touching. Conscious touch is loving, present, relaxing, and expansive. All touch should be conscious. Unconscious touch, touching a person while your mind is elsewhere really doesn’t feel very nice.
"Your body is your ground metaphor for life, the expression of your existance. It is your bible, your encyclopedia, your life story. Everything that happens to you is stored and reflected in your body. Your body knows. Your body tells. The relationship to your self to your body is indivisible, inescapable, unavoidable.
Sexual Self Esteem is how a woman feels about herself in relation to matters of sex, how much she knows about herself sexually, and about the feminine mysteries of her own body, her ability to flow freely and enjoy sex, to know what she wants and to have clear boundaries. A woman with high sexual self confidence is attractive to men, or whoever she wants to relate with.
Happiness on a biological level is a body full of balanced hormones, chemical reactions such as endorphins and oxytocin, an abundance of life force energy, and the capacity to cultivate delicious feelings of orgasmicness and blissful sensations of pleasure throughout the body. Having a positive relationship with your sexual nature is such an important part of a woman’s healthy and fulfilled life.
Kegal exercises are vaginal toning exercises, such as squeezing tightly, contracting, and pulling the vaginal floor up, often recommended to women as a necessary exercise we need to do to keep the vaginal muscles strong and toned. Particularly after childbirth or as a woman ages, different conditions such as incontinence or prolapses can commonly occur. It doesn’t have to be that way, it speaks of a society of women who haven't been nourishing their own vaginas.
There is a lot to be said for cultivating a relaxed approach towards sex. There’s a whole different world of infinite possibilities to explore that a lot of people miss because they have sex in pursuit of the peak orgasm.
Genital armour refers to tension, tightness and hardness which builds up in the genital area which blocks energy flow to the pelvic area. We all have body armouring, defence structures that the body creates to help us cope with childhood and life in general. Sometimes it was necessary to resist and to protect ourselves from the inevitable violations and traumas of life. By armouring, the body seeks to protect itself from pain, emotional, physical or spiritual.
Sex has an evolutionary function. When we raise our sexual energy up through the chakras and circulate it through our bodies, we are using sexual energy in the way it was designed to be used. Sexual energy is life force energy, it is the energy of enlightenment and freedom and liberation. Repression of sexual energy is a form of subjugation and control of the masses, naturally favoured by organised religion, it’s a cultural legacy, held in sway by the busyness and stress of people’s lives. Sadly, we are distanced in today’s world from the power and ecstasy of our own bodies.
Woman's basic unhappiness, her perennial discontent, is because man can no longer reach her physically. Her emotional excess, depressions, tearful frustration, even pre menstrual tension and the conditions leading to hysterectomy and other uterine problems, are due to man's sexual failure to gather and release in lovemaking her finest fundamental female energies ... Man's basic unhappiness, his perennial restlessness, is because in forgetting how to make love, he abandoned his original divine authority and lost sexual control of himself.
We all seek our kindred soul or spirit, but, as Initiatic Science tells us, you cannot find on the outside what you have not already found inside, you will pass it by without noticing. The more beauty you possess inwardly, the more beauty you will perceive on the physical plane. If you are not sufficiently developed, if you have no beauty inside, then you will not see it around you nor even recognize its existence. If you have inner beauty, you will see it everywhere, because the outer world is a reflection of the inner world. Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov
This is a conversation between Charles Eisenstein (author of Sacred Economics) and Rex Brangwyn.
i thought it was wonderful, so I encourage anyone with an interest in deepening their sexual connection, male or female, to listen to it. With their partner, if possible. It speaks of the possibilities that occur when the masculine practices pure presence with the feminine. This allows her to fully open her sexuality. This is a very powerful thing, which not all men have yet experienced, so please, listen, and enjoy.
We certainly live in a sex-saturated society, but it is far from a sex-positive culture. Sexual energy is the most profound and powerful source of energy available to us, yet it has been deeply misunderstood, under-utilised and suppressed. Sex itself is often misused. Sexual healing is necessary to reclaim what is natural to us and what has gone missing.
This woman may be in disguise. She looks very feminine. In fact, she looks very feminine indeed. Dressed in heels and a sexy dress, a well cared for body and a made up face. She looks like she’s all woman. She may think she’s all woman, because she’s got the look, the waxing, the boobs, the high heels, the manicure and pedicure. But she’s not. Be very careful.
Almost everyone who's come of age in our sex negative culture needs loving guidance in adulthood in order to reach their full sexual potential. Genital armoring initially occurs when children are shamed or discouraged from touching their genitals, enjoying their bodies through masturbation and engaging in natural exploration with peers. It can also result from invasive medical interventions, insensitive or unskilled partners, rough handling, overuse of vibrators, emotional trauma, and from unfulfilling lovemaking.
Sometimes in a couples' life, it's inevitable that a man's plumbing won't respond as hoped for. This can happen for men when they are feeling disconnected from themselves, aren't getting regular sex, are with partners they're not 100% confident with, as they age, if they've had a bit to drink, or when they're a bit stressed, which would be most men in Sydney.
That's all it comes down to. The simple things. You put your bodies together in love and you breathe together, and you stay present, and you move with the sensations that are aroused from this approach. Every thought is considered a distraction in this approach. You follow the body, it's natural movements, sounds and desires