One definition I’ve been playing with … Love is Pleasure. The pleasurable feelings of our own hearts which are ours to cultivate and enjoy. Love is the fundamental energy of the universe. Everything is consciousness, and consciousness is love. The universal energies are benevolent and loving.
You are born with the capacity to love, but you are not born with the art of love. That art of love has to be taught, has to be imbibed. People feel bored with their wives and with their husbands. The reason is they have not been able to contact the other's real soul. They have been able to contact the body, but they have missed the contact that happens heart to heart, center to center, soul to soul. Once you know how to contact soul to soul, when you have become soul-mates, then there is no boredom at all. Then there is always something to discover in the other because each being is an infinity, and each being contains God Himself.
When it comes to relationships, it is the ways in which we are the same that creates closeness between us. Shared values, shared world view, shared goals, shared interests, time spent together and so on. But it is distance and difference which creates and renews desire in a long term relationship. Because a lot of couples spend a lot of time together and sleep in the same bed every night, they can end up very deeply bonded on a friendship and love level, yet find that their attraction to each other gets weaker the longer they spend together. All is not lost though, as there are some very practical things we can do to keep desire alive.
I have a lot of sympathy for men. I think they put up with a lot. The way they are portrayed on tv shows as bumbling idiots who can’t use a washing machine even though practically every machine ever invented was invented by a man. The unconscious manner in which women joke about them and put them down. The way it's seemingly ok for women to objectify men but god forbid a man even looks too long at a woman.
It’s quite common for desire to disappear in a long term relationship. Sexual intimacy is important. Here are of my top tips to help you reignite desire in your intimate life. 1.Distance breeds desire. While spending 24 7 with your other half breeds familiarity and friendship. It’s important to spend enough time away from your partner so that when you do meet, you have energy and attraction for each other.
Tantric sex is simple: It is the art of making love consciously. When we bring awareness to the act, we automatically contact deeply with the love that we are. Tantra is embodied awareness, we situate our mind in our body, and we allow the intelligence of the body to flow. We naturally awaken to the love that we are, the energy of love which is always present, always available for us to connect with.
All sacred sexuality traditions, indigenous traditions and esoteric teachings of the major religions from around the world and through the different ages teach this: All of creation stems from the interplay of masculine and feminine energies. The making love of Shiva and Shakti, yin and yang, expansion and contraction, action and receptivity, chaos and order, night and day, positive and negative are all expressions of masculine and feminine energies. This is the the dance of life.
When you touch someone it should be special. You should be centred and present and fully engaged with the part of the body you are touching. Conscious touch is loving, present, relaxing, and expansive. All touch should be conscious. Unconscious touch, touching a person while your mind is elsewhere really doesn’t feel very nice.
"Your body is your ground metaphor for life, the expression of your existance. It is your bible, your encyclopedia, your life story. Everything that happens to you is stored and reflected in your body. Your body knows. Your body tells. The relationship to your self to your body is indivisible, inescapable, unavoidable.